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Thanks Bev, I had almost the same experience when I was 14 or 15. My grandparents dies within a month of each other and I was the one everyone came to to cry. I think my friend will be okay if she gives me a chance to inform her a little more (I don’t think she’ll read up on her own). Thanks for the end-of-semester advice. I think this has been a little more of a trying semester because I scheduled myself terribly. But I have a summer to recuperate 
Mel
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Nice to hear you are taking the summer off. Hopefully you will not be working or hopefully only part-time. I think you’ve done well this year but you’ve had to cope with a lot, too. Spend some quality time on yourself!!! Good luck on exams! Bev Melanie Kopfinger wrote in message
<9caa1k$3f…@nntp9.atl.mindspring.net>… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Thanks Bev, >I had almost the same experience when I was 14 or 15. My grandparents dies >within a month of each other and I was the one everyone came to to cry. I >think my friend will be okay if she gives me a chance to inform her a little >more (I don’t think she’ll read up on her own). >Thanks for the end-of-semester advice. I think this has been a little more >of a trying semester because I scheduled myself terribly. But I have a >summer to recuperate >Mel
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Hello, I kind of feel bad for a friend of mine. She asked me today if I was an organ donor. When I told her no, she asked why, and I told her that I have lupus. (Most people I know don’t know about any of my problems.) She got very sad and asked if I was going to die before her. This was a very weird experience. I’m not used to people reacting the way that she did and it bothers me a little. I was considerably more upbeat than her and I’m afraid that she might think that there is something wrong with me mentally because I wasn’t all depressed about it. I didn’t get the chance to tell her that I have had a year to come to terms with this, but she really didn’t talk to me for the rest of class. It’s just disturbing. Other than that I am doing fine. Yesterday I tried what my rheumy told me to do with the methotrexate (take 3 in the morning and 3 at night) and it seems to have worked. My stomach is not bothering me at all today and other than a headache yesterday, I’m okay. I hope everyone is doing well and has a wonderful day. Mel
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Often young people have not had much life experience. As a result they often say things that they might mean but probably not expressed very well. Death seems to be a biggie when it comes to lack of words. I remember when I was probably 14 or 15 – my best friend’s grandmother died. Naturally her mom was very upset. I just looked at her (Mom)and told her it was Ok because she (Grandmom) was old. Was I right? Of course, but a grieving family doesn’t want the truth laid out so blatantly. I’m sure your fellow student didn’t mean any harm. Maybe she just doesn’t really know that much about lupus or has lost a friend to lupus. Therefore she just thinks that lupus is always terminal. I would say her lack of information is showing and add that to her "youth" and it came out all wrong. You’ve added many years of maturity to your physical years just by dealing with lupus. Maybe you will have the chance to inform her but if you don’t it is NOT your problem it is hers. Maybe someday she’ll look back on the acquaintance and realize what a remarkable woman you were to have faced a serious problem with a positive outlook. You didn’t place your life on hold but continued to strive for goals in spite of your illness. Glad to hear you are doing better and the meds are working. I’m sure your semester is just about over and you are probably facing some final exams. Be careful and watch your health. Get plenty of sleep and eat right! (Yep, there’s that mom thing in me!) You will need your strength to get through the exams. So try to stay healthy. Good luck! Bev – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Melanie Kopfinger wrote in message <9c724k$d2…@slb4.atl.mindspring.net>… >Hello, >I kind of feel bad for a friend of mine. She asked me today if I was an >organ donor. When I told her no, she asked why, and I told her that I have >lupus. (Most people I know don’t know about any of my problems.) She got >very sad and asked if I was going to die before her. This was a very weird >experience. I’m not used to people reacting the way that she did and it >bothers me a little. I was considerably more upbeat than her and I’m afraid >that she might think that there is something wrong with me mentally because >I wasn’t all depressed about it. I didn’t get the chance to tell her that I >have had a year to come to terms with this, but she really didn’t talk to me >for the rest of class. It’s just disturbing. >Other than that I am doing fine. Yesterday I tried what my rheumy told me >to do with the methotrexate (take 3 in the morning and 3 at night) and it >seems to have worked. My stomach is not bothering me at all today and other >than a headache yesterday, I’m okay. >I hope everyone is doing well and has a wonderful day. >Mel
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